His most famous book, The Four Agreements, was published in 1997 and sold about 10 million copies in the United States and has been translated into 46 languages. The book advocates personal freedom from the beliefs and agreements we have made with ourselves and others that create boundaries and unhappiness in our lives.  It aired on the OPRAH TV show.  The four chords are as follows: One downside of the book is that some of the chords are too extreme and, if you take them at your fingertips, can cause additional problems in your life if taken without a proverbial grain of salt. However, with a little balance and a sense of openness, these chords can each be transformative and relieve stress. Here is a statement on each of the four agreements. What it entails: A lot of stress can be created if you assume you know what others are thinking without checking with them. Understanding that other people may have other motivations for their actions, even radically deviating from your worldviews, and remembering to really try to understand others and discuss those motivations before jumping to conclusions about their behavior can go a long way in avoiding interpersonal conflict. I read this book when it was first published. Later, I bought copies for my family and friends.
A special friend was my mentor and hypnotherapist. He loved this book so much that he made it a must-read for all his clients. I can`t say enough good about the principles of this book. Assumptions « were » my thing and anyone who knew what grief I was creating in my own life. This little book has helped me enormously and I thank the author and suggest reading, learning, practicing and rereading it. Things to keep in mind: This is good advice to help you become less reactive, defensive, and retaliatory, but keep it in balance. Although everyone has their biases and there is no true objectivity, by never taking anything personally, you can really limit your ability to see your own negative patterns and biased thoughts and work to develop healthier patterns and lucid thinking. As Mr.
Scott Peck in The Road Less Traveled says, « The problem of distinguishing between who we are and what we are not responsible for in this life is one of the greatest problems of human existence. » In part 2 of this 2-part video, we learn more about the book of the law that governs our minds and the inner judge that makes us suffer because we never live up to our « image of perfection. » All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication, and we begin to look for what we have lost. We seek freedom because we are no longer free; we seek happiness because we are no longer happy; we seek beauty because we no longer believe that we are beautiful. What we are looking for is our « self ». With practice, the Four Accords help us restore our « authentic self, » and this is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. Death is not the greatest fear we have; Our biggest fear is taking the risk of being alive – the risk of being alive and expressing who we really are. – Don Miguel Ruiz The fourth agreement allows readers to get a better insight into the achievement of progress in achieving their life goals. This agreement includes the integration of the first three agreements into everyday life and also the exploitation of their full potential.  It is a question of doing one`s best individually, which is different from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you avoid self-judgment and do your best in every given moment, he will be able to avoid regret.  By including the first three chords and giving the best of himself in all facets of life, the individual will be able to live a life without sorrow and without lounging.
 In part 1 of this 2-part video, we learn more about the « domestication » of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. .